Saturday, May 26, 2012

As it should be

Whatever happens.  It is supposed to be that way.  What you did or didn't do was exactly perfect, you always did the right thing.  Of course, you might do it different another time, and we have the freedom to do that.  We have the ability to learn as we go.  Our responsibility is to see what has happened, really see it.  Evaluate things.  Ask questions.  Remember that each moment is another chance to change the world, however big or small that is for you.  Stay awake. 

Monday, May 21, 2012


What is home?  Is it a place, a person, your pets?  How do you know that you're 'home'?  Does just coming into your community make you feel like you're home?  Is it being with your family?  Home is where my dogs are, yes.  Or my kids, or all my stuff.  These things are not all in the same place at the moment, so I have lots of places I call home.  Where my friends are.  Well, that's all over the map.  I have communities of people who love me in many places.  I am so fortunate!

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Therapist Joan

When I look back on it, the peace that came over me when I figured out that the rant was not really about me was nothing less than miraculous.  At first I was stuck on that 'resentment' idea, and then when I was able to start listening again, it was apparent that the beef was not really with me.  I have never in my life run across someone so thoroughly encased in fear.  More than encased; permeated.  Attempts at reassurance met with denial, so I settled into therapist/facilitator... and gently pushed for as much as could be said and waited for the energy to run its course.  Whew!

Thursday, May 3, 2012


Really?  Me?  Unbelievable.  I even looked it up.  So why does it bother me?  I think because I got stuck on the idea and missed what it is I'm supposed to be resenting, which means I wasn't really listening.  But I got back to that.  To the listening part, and being able to listen and hear the real issue was helpful.  It became clear that whatever was going on did not require a change in my approach or behaviour, it required compassion and presence.  It required acceptance and non-judgement.  So that's what I'm trying to do...