Choose your words carefully. There is power in them. When you find yourself listening to things that make you feel sick, upset, anxious; excuse yourself from the conversation. No need to explain, just politely back out. When you find yourself spreading rumours or communicating your judgements about someone to another person, stop yourself. As much as you can, use positive words that open up conversation, not shut it down. Be able to disagree with words that state your opinion and allow other opinions as well. Start with words like; "for me..." or "from what I know...." and end with "what do you think?" or "how does that seem to you?" Now there's a conversation. Now there is a space for open communication. Now the words are working for you, and a better relationship is possible.
On the topic of "actions speak louder than words".... What you do, how you act can totally negate what you've just said. "Walk the Talk". Don't say what you don't mean. More on this another time.
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absolutely ... right now I am focusing on being aware of how and when I use the word "but" ... it is amazing how many times we add BUT to our sentences and it always seems add a negative to whatever we are saying.
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